5. Tell them they can also go to other members of your support team: These people include your spouse or partner, family, friends, clergy, teachers, coaches, and his team of health professionals. Tell them they can ask questions of these adults and talk with them about their feelings.

6. Allow to participate in their care: Give them age-appropriate activities, such as take a glass of water or an extra blanket.

7. Encourage them to express their feelings: Let them know they can express any feelings, including those that are uncomfortable. Also explain that it’s OK to say: “I have no desire to talk right now.”

8. Reassure them that will receive attention: Tell them that although you may not always provide direct care, their needs are important and will be covered.

9. You may have less energy, but use the one that has to talk with them:

Make sure you understand what you are asking, and make sure you always understand what you tell them.

10. Show lots of love and affection, as always: Let them know that although things are different, their love for them has not changed.

Coping with cancer can make you feel vulnerable, but remember: you are the expert on their children.

The cancer can be overwhelming and disturbing, but not change the facts that you are who know your child better.

Trust your sense on how best to support them during this difficult time.

Cancer care has a staff of professionals in oncology social workers that can help your family cope with a diagnosis of cancer. It offers free support and advice to parents, and guidance to children to help them understand the disease.